Seeking Solutions: A Family Dilemma
A wife reaches out on Reddit, seeking advice on navigating a challenging situation with her stepdaughter, Trudi.
Understanding the Background
Trudi, the OP’s stepdaughter, moved in with her and her husband amid financial difficulties. Despite the willingness to help, tensions arose due to the mess caused by Trudi and her children.
Navigating Turbulent Relationships
The OP and her husband married when Trudi was 22, and now she’s 36. Their relationship, marked by turbulence, stemmed from Trudi having her own mother and living independently. Unexpected circumstances led to their cohabitation.

The Living Arrangement
Living in a high tourist area, the OP retained her old apartment for short-term rentals. They agreed that Trudi would move into the vacant apartment after the holidays, signing a lease with no initial rent to build up rental history and savings.
Challenges Faced
Living with Trudi proved challenging for the OP. Trudi and her children fail to clean up after themselves, contrasting with her husband’s efforts despite exhaustion from long work hours.
Seeking Justification
Questioning the validity of her response to the messy living situation, the OP seeks guidance on managing this sensitive issue without further straining their relationship.